If we were having coffee…


If we were having coffee is a blogging community idea, where bloggers publish posts about what they’d like to say to their readers if they were sitting down together having a casual cup of coffee.

I found this beautiful blog idea on the wonderful blog Blogs-of-a-Bookaholic. I thought it was lovely, since we all blog for a sense of community, right? So what better way of expressing this than by imagining that we are all hanging out in a coffee shop and actually conversing face to face.

I do need to say that I did not create the above graphic. I am less-than-useless when it comes to making anything visually creative. That beautiful e-calligraphy came from the same blog on which I found this blog idea, Blogs-of-a-Bookaholic. The link to the original blog post is embedded in the image.

So, my dears, go make a nice cup of coffee and let’s get started.

Setting the scene: we’re in one of my favourite cafés. It’s one of those places where nothing matches and yet everything goes together. Mismatched couches, bar stools, a 1950’s style jukebox in one corner, and old-style Pacman and Space Invader tables in another. The music can vary from Johnny Cash to Australian hip-hop to electric swing in any given hour. The coffee is phenomenal and, given that it is basically summer here in Australia, I urge you to try the cold-press coffee. It still has its original coffee flavour as this particular cold-press is brewed on-site and hasn’t been overly sugared. Once we all have our drinks, we move away from the cosy front room to the slightly-more-spacious room out the back where the couches are among the comfiest on which I have ever sat and there is always a collection of niche magazines sitting on the coffee table. This room has a more neo-classical feel than the main room, with the couches ending in clawed mahogany feet and both of the paintings in this room hang in gilded frames. And it is here, dear bloggers, that we sit and drink our coffee.

If we were having coffee…
I would most likely jokingly start with one of those embarrassing ice-breaker games that everyone’s forced to do on the first day of every class from high school through to university. Only, I’d give the game a bookish twist. Something like, “state your name and one of your favourite books or authors that start with the same letter as your name.” I’d start this way because, given the fact that we all blog, I’m guessing a fair few of us would be introverted and need a way to broach the idea of talking to each other in a way in which (I’m guessing) we’re all familiar.

If we were having coffee…
I’d make everyone feel welcome. I don’t usually delve into politics on here but in the current climate after the presidential election in the US, I’d want everyone to know that this is a safe space. That everyone is 100% accepted. Because I am terrified that this election is going to give voice to bigots everywhere and I am a firm believer that we can combat this with as much kindness as we can muster in our daily lives.

If we were having coffee….
I would then lead into the fact that, after the election, I immediately started re-reading The Hunger Games. Objectively, I know the idea that The Hunger Games actually becoming a reality is incredibly implausible. Emotionally, though, it feels all too real. And I wanted to read a story where bravery and love can overcome a corrupt system. I needed that in my life, and still do, in fact.

If we were having coffee…
I would then ask which books every one else is reading at the moment. New, fresh stories or old favourites? I wonder how many people are re-reading Harry Potter after the release of Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them. I also wonder how many people have seen the movie and what they thought of it.

If we were having coffee…
I’d want to talk to you all about anything at all. I love blogging, I really do, but my favourite part of blogging is responding to the comments left on my posts. It’s like getting into a surprise conversation with someone who loves books as much as me at a party where I know no one. So I’d like to have actual conversations with you. Because blogging, to me, is about finding a community into which you fit.

If we were having coffee…
I’d thank you all for getting me through a tough time back in 2014. I was living in a new town and I struggle to make friends. I’m too shy and too worried about saying the wrong thing. I blogged a lot that year and every single one of your responses helped me to feel a little less alone. So, from the bottom of my heart, I thank you all.

If we were having coffee…
I would probably end up venting a little. About how disconnected I feel lately with the people around me and how I don’t know how to fix it. About my recent break-up with the world’s most lovely man and how unfair it is that we often don’t fall in love (or stay in love) with the one who is hell-bent on making you happy. I would then most definitely ask if there was anything that any of you needed to get off your chests. Because, as we all know from books and movies and TV shows, it’s often easier to talk to strangers about your problems than with people you know.

I would vent about things that are a little less grim too; like how much I hate the humidity in Brisbane, how much I loved the Gilmore Girls revival and how much I hate how things were left with Jess. He deserved better than that, I swear.
I may also bring up the fact that I both met and had a photo taken with the incredibly lovely and wonderfully talented Nathan Fillion and Enver Gjokaj. Because, well, why wouldn’t I?

If we were having coffee…
I’d thank you all for following my blog and by promising to try and be better with following all of your wonderful blogs. I get so bogged down in work and study that I often don’t get the time to visit everyone’s sites. I do promise to try harder because you are all so wonderful and talented that you deserve to have your posts read.

Thank you for hanging out with me for a little while today, guys. I hope, one day, we do get to meet for coffee. Because I think that would be just wonderful.


I do not take credit for either of the images in this post. I tried to link them as best I could, but if you know of a better link for them, please let me know, and I will make the changes. Everyone should be properly credited for their work. 

About Bec Graham

Bec Graham, 24, was born on the wrong continent. Everything from her burns-like-paper skin tone to her inability to cope with the slightest hint of a hot day suggests she should have been born under the gloomy skies and mild sun of the UK. She hopes writing will get her to her rightful home one day. Failing that, she scans the skies for a spinning blue police box, hoping to catch a lift back to the motherland.
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16 Responses to If we were having coffee…

  1. bornandread says:

    This is a lovely idea for a post! If we were having coffee I would make you talk about the Gilmore Girls for the whole time, because no one in my life watches it and I have so many feels that need expressing. Like the fact that I haven’t been able to watch the revival yet and I’m TERRIFIED of spoilers (I had to skip the bit in your post where you mention the revival for fear of even the smallest spoily – I haven’t even watched any of the trailers for it – I want to go in completely fresh!).

    • Bec Graham says:

      Not too many people in my life watch or if they do, they don’t care as much as I do. So I would totally be OK with that!
      And I totally agree with the avoiding of spoilers. I tried not to spoil anything at all but I did give a little information so that makes sense. 🙂

  2. This is such a wonderful post Bec! I definitely feel like I’ve just sat down for a coffee with you hehe. Yeah, Brisbane is getting pretty hot these days. There is so much happening in the world and it’s just normalising some behaviours which is not good at all. Anyway, thanks for sharing lovely!

    • Bec Graham says:

      Aww, thank you Jeann! That was the idea!
      And I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said. But if we all treat each other with kindness in our own lives, I hope we may be able to normalise acceptance 🙂

  3. Loved this post! I hope you had as much fun with it as I did. It feels so intimate and laid back in comparison to writing a standard ‘what I’ve been up to post’.

    If we were having coffee…. I’d tell you that I just read Fantastic Beasts for the first time, but that I haven’t seen the movie yet.
    If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that I’ve just come back from a long weekend in Bath visiting the Christmas markets, and it so was crazy busy you could barely move. We spent over 2 hours going from car park to car park trying to find spaces – everywhere was full. It did ruin the atmosphere a bit.. but the architecture in Bath was so beautiful.
    If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that I’m so sorry to hear about your breakup, and that I send you all my love. Sometimes there is no logic to these things and the only thing that can help you heal is time.
    If we were having coffee… I’d tell you that I’ve been tempted to reread The Hunger Games for that exact same reason.
    If we were having coffee I’d tell you that I cannot WAIT to watch Gilmore Girls, but that I haven’t watched an episode yet because I was away in Bath. RORY IS MY SPIRIT ANIMAL.
    And if we were having coffee, I’d thank you for all your wonderful blog posts (your comments have helped me equally over the years. 🙂

    • Bec Graham says:

      Thank you so much for this lovely comment. This was absolutely beautiful. Thank you! I did love the nature of this post, more about friendship than anything else.
      I read Fantastic Beasts years and years ago when they were released as one of Harry’s textbooks, alongside Quidditch Through The Ages. They both had notes from the Hogwarts trio scribbled in margins. Are those notes still in there?
      Those markets in Bath sound stunning. The parking situation definitely wouldn’t have helped, but I’ve always been intrigued by Christmas markets. We don’t really have any here. Was it snowing??
      And thank you for your kind words. Breakups are never anything less than terrible.
      Rereading Hunger Games was lovely. Eventually I managed to get swept up in the story again, forgetting the reason I was reading in the first place.
      THE GILMORE GIRLS EPISODES ARE AMAZING. YOU WILL LOVE THEM. But that one thing just niggles a little. But I won’t say more because spoilers 🙂
      And once again, thank you! We’re all just writing about what we love, so it is fantastic to get to talk about it with people who are doing the same thing!

      • You see, I never bothered reading it because I didn’t think it would be that interesting – after reading it I pretty much felt the same. The one bit I did love were all the scribbles from the famous duo in the comments, though!

        Technically….it did not snow. HOWEVER. They had a fake snow machine in one section and I nerded out big time and regressed several years in age. xD I could have walked up and down that street for an hour. 😛

        I HAVE NOW WATCHED THE FIRST TWO EPISODES. I will come back to you afterward to discuss spoilers. 😉

        No problem. Solidarity sister!

      • Bec Graham says:

        I felt the same, at the time. But I think I was 12 or something so reading those books was too much like reading my own schoolbooks. The scribbles were fun, though. Even more so because we ABSOLUTELY WERE NOT ALLOWED to scribble on ours. (It always sounded like teachers said that in all caps).
        Oohhh a fake snow machine! I would have nerded out too! I’ve never actually seen snow, seeing as I’ve always mainly lived on in the northern half of the east coast of Australia. I will see snow one day, though!
        And yay!!! Gilmore Girls!!! Enjoy 😄
        Aww, thanks!


      • Bec Graham says:

        People usually respond this way! But the coldest temperature I’ve ever personally experienced is -1°C. Australia isn’t really known for its snow 😛

      • Wow that’s amazing. I knew Australia was hot but I assumed it got equally cold occasionally. Huh. You should go on holiday to Iceland. 😉

      • Bec Graham says:

        In certain parts of Australia it gets pretty cold, usually down south and a little bit inland. Just not where I live. It very rarely gets to temperatures in the single digits.
        I wanna go to Iceland one day! And Greenland! (Cos isn’t Greenland cold and Iceland green? :-P)

      • Haha something like that, but the scenery in Iceland looks amazing. It’s recently made my bucket list. xD

      • Bec Graham says:

        I think I looked into Iceland after Eurovision this year 😛

  4. Deborah says:

    So sorry about your breakup Bec… but can picture our coffee venue. We had a place like that here. A bit retro, but very mismatched and they had little plants for sale and all sorts of stuff. Sadly they closed down… I don’t mind bright shiny cafes but they don’t have the same level of comfort do they.

    I know what you mean about connectedness. I tend to feel that I’m always the least important person in the relationships I have with others. I know that’s mostly because they have other commitments but still…

    • Bec Graham says:

      Thanks Debbie! 🙂
      I love the unique cafés. You’re definitely right; the shiny cafés are nowhere near as comfortable as the individualistic ones. I also find better food and coffee in the smaller joints too!
      I am so sorry that you feel that way. It’s a feeling I know well, as an introvert. It’s more of a challenge to make friends and make plans with those friends when shyness is your default setting 😦

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